Femdom, or female domination, for me is about using the tenants of BDSM to help people recognize their shitty internal programming. I then use the tools at my disposal to guide them to true freedom from the shackles of patriarchal gender norms. To the men reading this, that means that you’re more than your cock and how much money you can earn. Just as one should be able to define the parameters of their own feminine or non-binary gender expression and identity, so too should anyone be able to define those same parameters in regard to their own masculinity. To that end, I decided to team up with my bestie to create a starting point in this journey of redefinition. Keep reading for more details on my Femdom Chastity Team up with Ms. Krista and how even short periods of femdom chastity can help, not only detox your masculinity (or let it go entirely) but make you a better person overall.

My Femdom Chasity Team Up

After many conversations with my bestie, the debauched Hybrid Mixtress of Kinks and Drinks, we came to the conclusion that sex and sensuality are way too phallocentric. Also, that any journey to reclaim or redefine masculinity has to shift the focus away from dicks and orgasms achieved by penile stimulation. As dominant women who fill the role of Femdom from time to time, there are a few avenues we get to use in order to shift the aforementioned focus. There’s straight up orgasm denial, where a person with a penis can hump, rub, tug, and penetrate to their hearts content as long as they don’t cum. Or there’s male chastity, both mental and physical, where you resist all urges to hump, rub, tug, or penetrate and you most definitely Don’t Get to Cum. While we both enjoy denying men’s orgasms after teasing, edging, and/or a bit of CBT, orgasm denial still focuses on the cock too much for what we’d like to help our subs achieve. Femdom chastity, however, presents us with an opportunity to teach those that submit to us how to both redirect their horniness and learn to experience pleasure that isn’t cock focused. To that end, my bestie and I came up with a femdom chastity package that seeks to do just those things!

Why You Should Say ‘Nay Nay’ to VaJayJay

Pussy and the pursuit of it seems to be a huge part of patriarchal masculinity. According to modern gender norms, men are only really men if they can properly please a woman with their cock. This standard doesn’t take into account women’s pleasure, and it puts unnecessary emphasis on cocks. This combination leads to a lot of anxiety and frustration for men, which absolutely leads to performance issues and dissatisfaction in the bedroom. For these reasons, Krista and I created the NayNay VaJayJay PleJayJay. By swearing off pussy, forever or for a shorter amount of time, the mental load of pleasuring a woman is immediately lifted. Not only that, but it also frees up space in the cock-havers mind to focus on non-dick related pursuits. Things like, learning emotional intelligence, how to be more supportive of the women in your life, taking up a new hobby and so on. Having a Femdom, like me and my bestie, to guide your chastity means that we’ll be the ones overseeing and guiding your non-dick related pursuits. As the old adage says, ‘Nothing ventured, nothing gained’ so if you’re willing to give up pussy, we’re willing to give you the full breadth of our domination.

How To Get the Most Out of Your Time with Us

Now, just because both Krista and I’s names are on this package, doesn’t mean you’re beholden to both of us. If you’d like to commit to one of us for the duration of your chastity, let us know! However, if you should ever need support or additional guidance, we’re both here for you. I relish any opportunity to negotiate terms with an eager submissive so feel free to reach out to me once you’ve purchased your assignment package.  My own personal Domme fantasy involves me holding a submissive in mental chastity using only my panties and a contract. So, I’d love to know your preferences when it comes to physical vs. mental chastity. I’d also love to hear what you’d like to accomplish while you’re swearing off pussy. I can help you create a list of non-sexual goals you’d like to meet while you’re chaste before helping you achieve them. I can also help you make a list of sexual experiences you’d like to have that don’t focus on your cock. I’m happy to answer any questions you may have about our pussy free pledge so fire away in the comments down below!

Until next time,

Meshelle✨