Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! I hope you’re receiving as much love as you’re giving today; you deserve it! If not, then consider yourself my Valentine and keep reading to receive the full breadth of my amorous divinity. Of which I have loads, since I’m currently preparing myself for tomorrow’s libidinous festivities. You see, dear Valentines, tomorrow is Lupercalia, a day that many different neopagans observe in many different ways and for many different reasons. For me, it’s a celebration of the self, both spiritual and sensual, as well as a reclamation of personal bodily autonomy. A day perfect for self-love, grounding, and purification rituals whether you’re performing them alone or with others. So, if you’re not quite feeling the love from others today consider giving it to yourself tomorrow and allow me to assist you by providing a few self-love ritual ideas, including erotic spankings and their roots in ancient Lupercalia celebrations.

Erotic Spankings and Lupercalia

As someone who enjoys both giving and receiving erotic spankings, I enthusiastically encourage anyone with a spanking fetish to give ritual self-spankings a shot on February 15th. Like the Romans of ancient days, ritual spankings are a practice that can be indulged in as part of Lupercalia celebrations. During those days, it was celebrated by whole towns and villages just before Spring along with a whole host of customs and practices that would be severely frowned upon today. However, the ritual spankings that occurred during these ancient celebrations, involved men dressing up as specific entities from nature while the women ran about the town or village, usually naked. As they ran, the men would perform ‘lustrations’ or light flogging upon their buttocks, thighs, and lower backs when they passed them. The purpose of these ritual spanking was to ward off infertility, heighten lust, remove bad luck, and purify one of curses.

Ritual Idea #1: Self-Lustration Ritual

Whether your self-spankings be erotic spankings for your own lust and pleasure, or a symbolic act for spiritual purposes, you’re allowed to be creative with your ritual creation on Lupercalia. For instance, if the prospect of dressing up sounds enticing, why not incorporate it into your ritual? I’ll tell you now that I rather enjoy dressing up for erotic purposes, so I encourage you to lean into the urge to don ceremonial garb as part of your ritual. However, if you’re wanting to feel a bit freer or unencumbered, instead you could undress completely and embody those naked ladies running about their towns and villages. However, instead of running through your town or city lightly flogging your own bottom, consider spanking yourself for a Goddess. This opens up a fun avenue for some femdom roleplay phone sex wherein your Goddess is playing the part of an actual Goddess you’d like to venerate for the holiday, or one of those men dressed up delivering your lustrations. Whatever route you go down narratively, make sure to choose an implement for your self-lustrations that feels right to you. Feel free to reference those celebrants of ancient times and use a flogger or cat-of-nine tails for your own light self-flogging. Whether you decide to lustrate alone or with the guidance of a femdom, I encourage you to do so with the utmost love and care for yourself as you are able to muster. Make yourself feel really good while you lustrate, Valentine.

Ritual Idea #2: Self-Love Purification Ritual

This ritual is a bit of take on my own personal Lupercalia observances. I’ll be observing solo this year and to start will be indulging in bathing as body worship for myself. The goal of this self-love ritual is to relax the physical body using self-touch, listening to sensual music (or no music) to set the mood, and talking to yourself in soothing tones to help ground you in the moment. Say comforting, loving things to yourself as sink lower into the perfect temperature bath you adoringly drew for yourself. Take your time touching and caressing every inch of yourself with the reverence you deserve. Make sure to massage and stroke your body as you lather up for cleansing, as well as when you rinse your body. You can continue soaking in the tub once you’ve finished…or you can take your time and explore that magnificent body of yours to your own satisfaction, Lover.

Just in the same way that Valentine’s Day is a day all about the love we show others, Lupercalia can be a day all about the love that we show ourselves. Thank you for reading this to the end, Valentine. I hope that along with entertaining you, I was able to inform you of a day of the year dedicated to giving yourself the physical, emotional, and/or spiritual love you deserve. I sincerely wish you the happiest of Valentine’s Days and many pre-Lupercalia Blessings!

Until next time,

Meshelle